When I Die, Take My Panties

A daughter cares for her dying mother in this intimate memoir of ovarian cancer, frank conversations, and finding peace through laughter and gratitude.

In 2006, Jennifer Coken’s mother was diagnosed with stage four ovarian cancer. She had a slim chance of living another five years, but she chose to spend her remaining days tap dancing through chemotherapy and loving her family and friends ferociously. In this witty and heartfelt memoir, Jennifer recounts how she found the strength to care for her mother and cope with her death while facing troubles in her own life.

Challenging circumstances force us to face a harsh reality; so often we want to control life—and the truth is we can’t. This is a story of how personal transformation can come from tragedy if we are willing to find it. Above all, it is a wake-up call for anyone who needs the courage to have heartfelt conversations with the people they love right here, right now.