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Don't Bite Your Tongue

An empowering guide to creating rewarding relationships between parents and their adult children.

Parents work hard to raise their children into adulthood, but popular wisdom tells them to bite their tongues and loosen the purse strings once their child is grown! But increasing life spans mean that parents and children can spend as many as five or six decades as adults together: actively parenting adult children is a reality for many families. Dr. Ruth Nemzoff, an expert in family dynamics, empowers parents to forge a close relationship with their children while respecting their independence. Nemzoff shows parents how to:Create an active relationship over long distancesDiscuss financial issues without using money as a form of controlVoice opinions about an adult-child’s child-rearing practicesRespond to major changes in an adult child’s life, such as choice of partner, religion, career, and more

Don’t Bite Your Tongue is a groundbreaking look at a relationship that’s been invisible for far too long.

Ruth Nemzoff

Dr. Ruth Nemzoff is a resident scholar at Brandeis University's Women's Studies Research Center and lectures widely on family dynamics. Her papers are archived at the Schlesinger Library at Harvard University where she also holds a doctorate in social policy. She has served three terms in the New Hampshire legislature and is the mother of four adult children. She lives in Newton, MA with her husband Harris Berman.

St. Martin’s Press